A relationship expert known for his controversial opinions on dating says it’s time to ban “going out with the boys,” saying it’s not controlling, just common sense.
Jake Maddock, Australia’s self-proclaimed ‘Tough Love Relationship Coach’, believes it’s impossible to have a healthy relationship when you’re dating your pals ‘single’.
“Being single while in a relationship is not good,” he told FEMAIL.
“Don’t go out alone. Don’t go on boys’ and girls’ vacations alone. Don’t do boys’ or girls’ nights – none of that crap.’
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Self-proclaimed relationship coach Jake Maddock (pictured) says paired men and women need to stop acting single by going to events alone
Jake says “people do this all the time,” but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea, and the same goes for women who crave a “girls’ night out.”
“Going to clubs alone, you go out alone at midnight and take shots, have a crazy time and dance around.
“What is your partner doing? Sitting at home, sad, lonely, wondering what you’re up to,” he said.
He then slammed the idea that banning his partner from going out was “controlling.”
“Everyone out here is trying to have these pc relationships, it’s not working,” he said.
“To have a ten out of ten relationship, you have to be in a relationship.”
He suggests people “go out and have fun” but bring their partner.
Jake has been dubbed the most “sneering” relationship coach on TikTok by both men and women due to his controversial opinions.
He believes men should pay for every date, women should indulge their feminine energy, and that people should have sex on their first date.
Jake became a relationship coach after “discovering” how to build a good relationship.
But the former soldier’s “man man” view seems to have had a polarizing influence on some of his listeners – many women claim his advice bridges the gap between offensive and dangerous.
One such piece of advice is that couples should be intimate at least two to three times a week throughout their relationship.
“There is no **qualified** sex or relationship therapist who would give such blanket advice…from a sexologist-in-training,” said one woman.
Clementine Ford commented, “You don’t have the qualifications to present yourself as a ‘relationship coach’. Advice like this is not only really dangerous and predatory, but you don’t even offer a reason for it? These are just your personal opinions,” she said.
In the controversial video, he said there were “no excuses” to let the intimacy slide.
“Of course there are no excuses. Because you don’t need an excuse not to have sex. A simple no is enough. Please learn what consent is,” said one woman.
In another video, Jake says women shouldn’t ask men out — but can offer dating suggestions.
Jake believes that going out with his buddies is something like “acting single” and that when you go out your partner should always be with you (stock image)
“You want to say things like I love talking to you, when are you going to ask me out,” he said.
But his followers argued that this advice went against his male, female rule.
“If you’re trying to be feminine, you wouldn’t ask him out backwards or forwards, that’s masculine in my opinion,” said one woman.
“It’s kind of passive aggressive and not very attractive to me,” said another.
While others criticized the tactic of “rewarding lazy men with little effort”.
“I usually agree with you, but not in this case. Does a manly man need an invitation to take you out on a date? I do not think so.’
The polarizing relationship coach has been known on TikTok for his controversial opinions, which include that men have to pay for every date
Jake continues to defend his career move and now speaks to an audience of over 70,000 followers on Instagram.
“There were a good ten years of my life that were pure hell because I didn’t understand relationships at all,” he said.
“So I decided to learn about them and become a master at it. After years of studying under mentors, reading books and putting information into practice, I achieved a 10/10 relationship,” he added.
Jake believes men struggle in relationships because they are “not good at verbalizing their wants and needs or even understanding them.”
“The biggest mistakes people make are not being intimate enough, not communicating effectively, ignoring male and female energy, not dating enough, and not respecting each other,” he said.